Relationships

Relationships can be a wonderful thing. On the other hand, they can destroy connections and even someone's sanity. Just like with everything else, it has its pros and cons.

I personally have lost faith in the thought of marriage. I know each relationship is what you make it. However, divorce rates are very high and it doesn't assure me that its worth the trouble just for a piece of paper. If the connection is there, the paper won't matter. It's the feelings that the two people have for one another.

In this day and age, relationships no longer last 50 years. You'd be lucky if you make it to 10. I believe that the passion to make it work no matter what has gone out the window. A partnership is working together and supporting one another through the storms. Nowadays people are selfish. Once the rocky times begin, they no longer want to be bothered. Selfishness turns into verbal abuse towards one another and then the relationship goes down hill from there.

Let me touch upon more of the concept of selfishness. It starts even before the relationship is formed. People date one another now to see what that other person can do or provide for them. The person's soul is no longer the most important to connect with. It's more in the lines of their credit, bank account, house, car, job, etc... This makes no sense. What happens when all those things are gone? Guess what? So is the relationship. Getting with someone under false pretenses is always the wrong thing to do. Everything will crash and burn in the end.

On another note, staying in a relationship due to material things or the if the sex is good, is bad. Not only will you tear yourself down in the end, but the relationship will leave a scar on your heart. The multiple scars from past relationships will make it harder for the right one to win your heart due to the barricade that now surrounds it. This goes for men and women.

When a relationship has gone sour and it cannot be reconciled, get out. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done. That is not healthy at all. I can speak to this as I spent 5 years in and out of a relationship where the guy was manipulating me to get what he wanted. Love made me blind and dumb. I was taken advantage of and it scarred me real good. I finally found the strength to let it go and the higher beings have put forth a magnificent man before me. I feel rewarded for having the ability to walk away from the bad relationship.

Relationships can be tricky and definitely a lot of work. You have to be the one to determine if it is worth fighting for or healthier to just walk away. Relationships are suppose to uplift you and make you feel good. They are not suppose to bring you down or make you stressed all the time. There is nothing wrong with counseling if you really want it to work. Sometimes we need to learn how to be in a relationship. Not everything comes naturally.

Take a look at what kind of relationship you are in. Is it making you happy? Does it need some work? Are you miserable? Decide what is best and take action. Remember there is always a way to make things work, but if it is destroying you, then they are not the right person for you.